August 18, 2016

MARRIAGE IS BEYOND COOKING – Pastor Chris Ojigbani

The respected Pastor Chris Ojigbani just sent this piece to OluFamous.Com on the trending issue of marriage in Nigeria and the type of lady a man should or should not marry. He is that popular pastor who usually fills massive venues whenever he's hosting Marriage Seminars in Nigeria or abroad.

Read his position on the Wife and Cooking saga...
Recently, there is this controversy going on in the social media that a man shouldn’t marry a woman who doesn’t know how to cook or a woman who doesn’t pray for an hour. So, I deem it necessary to clarify the issue. As the apostle of marriage, it’s my responsibility to clarify the issue to avoid causing more delayed marriage, separation and divorce in the world.

This is the will of God concerning the issue:

You must not use cooking as a criterion for choosing your spouse. Though food is important in life, cooking must not be used as a criterion for choosing a spouse. Why? I tell you three reasons.

First, a woman who doesn’t know how to cook can actually learn how to cook. Second, a woman can employ the services of a professional cook. Third, a husband can tolerate if his wife doesn’t cook very well. Tolerance is important in marriage because everybody has weaknesses, both husbands and wives. If a woman doesn’t know how to cook, it should be regarded as a weakness and the husband has to tolerate in order to be happy.

It’s very wrong for a man to divorce his wife because she doesn’t know how to cook. Nobody used cooking as a criterion for choosing a spouse in the Bible. In fact, when Isaac married Rebekah, he didn’t meet her, it was his servant that proposed marriage to Rebekah on behalf of Isaac and paid the bride price even before Isaac set his eyes on Rebekah. So in Christianity, we don’t use cooking as a criterion for choosing a spouse.

It’s also important you note that praying for an hour must not be used as a criterion for choosing a spouse. There is no scripture that says Christians must pray for an hour before they become good Christians. What Jesus Christ asked his disciples was: why couldn’t they watch with Him for an hour. Watching is different from praying. And when they failed to watch with him for an hour, they didn’t cease to be Christians. Even Peter, who couldn’t watch for an hour became the head of the disciples. If Peter couldn’t watch for an hour and still became the head of the disciples, why should we use praying for an hour as a criterion for choosing a spouse?

Do you know that vain repletion is a sin in Christianity? Jesus Christ said that we should not speak much in prayer. In Matthew 6:7-8, the Bible says that speaking much in prayer is a sin. If you need something, you should ask your Father what you need. Just go straight to the point - the Bible says that He already knows what you need, even before you ask Him. So, if you are not yet married and you are a man, never you use cooking as a criterion for choosing your spouse. It’s very wrong. God will not be happy with you if you do something like that.

I am speaking to you as the apostle of marriage that God has sent to correct the wrong doctrines of marriage in the world. Get married, not because a woman knows how to cook, but because she is a good woman. If you marry someone that knows how to cook and she is not good, what happens to you? Man shall not live by bread alone.

If you are a married man under the sound of my voice, never you divorce your wife because she doesn’t know how to cook. You can teach her how to cook or you tolerate her. Marriage is tolerance. And as a husband, it’s important you note that it’s your responsibility to nourish your wife, tolerate her, forgive her, and take good care of her. It’s a job you have to do.

God bless you. I love you! Don’t forget: marriage is beyond cooking; marriage is beyond praying for an hour. Marriage is an old fashioned institution. It’s the oldest institution and must be honored.

- Pastor Chris Ojigbani

14 comments:

Harbolarkale Niyi said...

Noted

uju oyemelonu said...

I HEAR YOU SIR.

Hassan Aderemi said...

Issorite.

Jeff Kingsley Jr said...

Man of God I respect ur view Daddy G.O never said cooking or praying for one hour is a criterion for marrying someone if u watch the video carefully what he said was let me talk to my daughters and sons, he never said the bible said this and that is more like a father giving his children advice which I think he gave out of his own personal opinion for me is the best, because u can't have a good girl with home training that does not know how to cook is impossible.... The talk can go on and on which individuals has their personal opinion and to me I concur with Daddy G.O

olutoscene1 said...

naso so confusion all these things dey cause.

#Olu, can you see?

Dididjon Paul said...

Criterion or no criterion, one need divine direction in choose his life partner, wisdom is always profitable to directions.

Anonymous said...

Cheap popularity. Just beware and know what you supposed to know as a wife on how to cook correct foods and how to pray seriously. Well, those who knows how to cook will teach you when your husband becomes theirs.

oluba amali said...

Thank you Sir.

Anonymous said...

even though I don't attend redeemed christian church of God, but I support what daddy G.O said. marriage is abt tolerance yes but how long can men have patience? abi no b all this guys wey dey for world now. if a girl knows how to cook, ur husband wont have any reason to go out and eat and by doing that u have reduced temptation that he shud face. am a good example of that my dear. guys can pretend to tolerate ur bad cooking in ur presence but they will definatly look for something satisfying to eat outside and while doing that they can get tempted so the same goes for prayers too. a good Christian should be able to pRay for at least one hour now. what kind of Christian won't pray for one hour now. G.O is just saying u should Marry a good xtain and nothing more

Anonymous said...

A GENUINE CHRISTIAN WILL UNDERSTANDS WHAT THE G.O. ADEBOYE SAID. PAPA ADEBOYE IS A HUMBLE MAN OF GOD, PLEASE DONT JUDGE HIM BEFORE GOD WILL JUDGE YOU.
THOUGH AM NOT RCCG MEMBER, BUT I LOVE THE MAN OF GOD. (A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE).

SPACO said...

We have so much confusion now that we have so many churches and pastors, everybody is teaching his or her own opinion not Gods opinion.

inumidun said...

We don hear..

samaila sulaiman said...

Issorite

Anonymous said...

@Jeff Kingsley Jr, you are right my brother. There is no need to confuse anybody here. It is a personal advise. If you like go ahead and marry a lady or a man who does not know how to do anything. you will be the one to suffer it all alone. Daddy G.O will not be there to share with you. If you like thake the humble pie and if not go ahead and do your wish. whatever you sow you will surely reap. shikena

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