August 20, 2016

Mothers, Please Teach Your Daughters How To Cook

by Temilolu Okeowo
My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,
Last week, I began deliberating on Pastor Adeboye’s sermon on marriage. Four things I can recollect he was quoted to have said while addressing his church members are the following:

Females should not marry a man without a job. || Males should not marry a lady who cannot cook.
Males should not marry a lady who cannot pray. || Men should not marry a “wordly” lady.

I addressed the first issue which is even backed up by the word of God 1 Timothy 5:8. Even without going so deep into the Holy Bible, we all know God provided a job for Adam before giving him a wife as written in the first book of the bible. So, I really wonder why one or two men sent me ballistic missiles for my write-up!

Today, I’ll be discussing the responsibility of every wife and home-maker and not her servitude. 
I repeat – the social media will ensure the failure of so many lives if care is not taken. We all have different destinies and what works for A may not work for B. I cringe when I read the rot some ladies write about having to cook for their husbands. This is Africa; we must call a spade a spade. If you want to be happily married to an African man, even if he has all the money in the world to hire 10 cooks to cook for him alone, it is still your responsibility to cook for him and take care of him as much as you can; except you are extremely busy or not living together and both of you reached a consensus. However, if care is not taken, another woman would work her way into his life and steal him from you. 

Not even at a time when the word of God says, “In that day, seven women will take hold of one man and say, “We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!” Isaiah 4:1

Men like to be pampered, waited upon and generally treated like kings. So, why would your husband work hard, tend to your needs, take care of you and you think there’s no point cooking for him or making him salivate and run all the way home from the office just to taste your food? Cooking for your husband is not an act of slavery but a show of love and commitment towards your husband and home. Okay, if you don’t think you have to cook for your husband, what about your kids, who would love to boast about their mum’s cooking? I am very sure there must be some of your aunties whom you were told were sent away from their marriages because they couldn’t cook decent meals for their husbands. 

Please mind what you read and absorb into your spirit on the social media. You may say it’s not compulsory to be married or marriage is not for everyone even after God Himself who formed you and knows what your destiny requires said “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Gen.2:18 If God graciously sends a destiny helper your way and you want to be happily married, you must give him your best shot so the enemy doesn’t find a way to get in your marriage and scatter what could have been designed to give you a most beautiful life.

One of your mother’s most important responsibilities is to teach you how to make a home whether you want to be married or not and not spend all the time teaching you the art of make-up, gele tying or going for owambe (parties) every weekend. I remember how furious my late dad was when he discovered I couldn’t boil rice at age 15 or so because we were surrounded by domestic staff and a super-domestic mother who would rather do things herself; he sent me to a catering school without wasting of time during a short holiday and I am the better for it today. 

Even if your mother is dead and there are no aunties around to teach you, what in the world happened to Google? You can Google up virtually every food that exists and learn how to cook. All the time you spend pouting and posing and taking selfies could be wisely spent on this. I insist your thoughts on no need of being domestic may change some day when you find a really good man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Why allow another woman be his darling? Beware, be wise! Go and learn how to cook! May God bless you and grant you a most beautiful life! Amen!

To be continued.

7 comments:

Harbolarkale Niyi said...

I sincerely agreed with you

Jeff Kingsley Jr said...

God bless u so much brother for this, and somebody is saying cooking should not be a criteria to choose ur wife if u love her u will teach wen I hear dis I ask my self what has she be doing in her father's house all dis years if she did nt learn how to cook frm her father's house meaning she is a spoilt child nobody want to get married to a spoilt child nobody at all while ur mother is at the kitchen cooking you should be there to see what she is doing in other for u to learn so wen u get married u can cook for ur husband

Anonymous said...

Well said....JATAU

samaila sulaiman said...

Nice one

Hassan Aderemi said...

Exactly!

SPACO said...

Nice one.

inumidun said...

Well said..