August 11, 2016

My Mother-in-law is Taking Control of My New Family; How Do I Stop This?

This is a true life story from a newly married man:
My problem started shortly after our wedding this year, and ever since its like I'm in a versus kind of relationship (I versus my wife and her family). My mother-in-law is so controlling, she knows all of our business...my wife makes sure she keeps her up to date on every little details that goes on in our lives and she is never out of our lives, not even for a week. 
I think my wife is ok with it because her mother can never be wrong.
She worships her either she is right or wrong, she is always visiting every weekend and sometimes stays with us for a week or two only to come back the following weekend saying she misses us. 
When I got married to my wife I didn't ask for a bonus, I don't know why we can't be left alone, and the worse part of it is that she comes with other family members and we always have a full house, I'm an introvert and I love my privacy but with my mother in-law I will never have that. 
I have become sad over the past few months and it's affecting my home because I can't even talk to my wife anymore because she is her mother's ear piece, I'm losing my sanity.
Again, my mother-in-law is coming over this weekend and I think I just need to go on a vacation alone this summer to clear my head. 
Please has anyone ever ever had this kind of problem before? I need help.

12 comments:

Jeff Kingsley Jr said...

Oga act like s man and talk to ur wife to keep ur family business private

eniola lawal said...

Talk to your mother and her mother about it

Hassan Aderemi said...

Just discuss it with your wife before such interference cause break-up in your matrimonial home.

Great said...

At this point u have to spell it out to ur wife and her mum,that ur privacy is paramount,she can only come visiting once in a while when need be.if she refuses u can start to out up attitude to her,am sure she will get the message that she is no longer welcomed.

samaila sulaiman said...

I think it will be better if you ask your own parents to try and talk to your mother in law. So your wife won't take it as if you disrespected her mom by talking to her directly and am sure that it will be more better that way cos the matter will be handle by the elders

mummy twins said...

Talk sense to ur wife

olutoscene1 said...

not until u decide to take charge of ur house as d man.

#Olu, can you see?

infinix said...

bro, you need to wake up before it's too late to change anything

Harbolarkale Niyi said...

Talk to your wife. Something happened to me, but I dealt with it seriously

Toluwase Adebayo said...

It's unfortunate.I don't believe you need to hold a cane to talk to your wife.Make her understand how it's affecting you.The way forward is speaking to your wife.If she understands act matured in addressing the matter,good.if not,usually men make a "choose me or your mum" or it gets to insulting her mum.Just be very careful how you address the issue.And be calm about it all through.Introverts tend to explode when pushed to the wall.Don't act stupid.Your marriage is paramount.

SPACO said...

You are the man there, stop complaining and act like a man simple. Marriage is not easy

inumidun said...

She needs serz heart 2 heart talk, hope she adheres though..

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