August 20, 2016

Naija Lady Cries: My Husband is pushing me to go for abortion

I wonder why people find it easy to kill a child, the action that you do not know the consequences...
Wife's story: I beg of you to keep all my details private, I don't know what I would do if this portion of my life leaks to the public. 
It pains me to be at such a point that I have to write anonymously into a blog. It's hard because I can't share this with anyone, so I've been battling it alone. 
I met my husband 3 years ago, and we did our traditional marriage this summer. We have not yet done our church wedding. For a while I started noticing a change in my body, and friends kept teasing that I look pregnant. So I decided to take a pregnancy test and discovered that l was pregnant.
I felt a small burst of joy because I had never imagined myself ever being pregnant, but that joy ended quickly because he was not excited and suggested I abort it. He said that he is not ready for a child yet, and that he has so much more he wants to do with his life
I went on to tell him that I am ready and that no matter the circumstance, the baby is already here. He told me that he does not operate like that and that gone are the days when people go on with things because they're already in a situation. 
I started crying and asking him why he would put me through this. Whenever I would try to explain my feelings to him he won't even give me the audience, he has not even made any effort to console me or make me feel better about the situation. 
I finally told him that I will go ahead and abort my baby, but when I do that will be the end of us, because I don't see how someone that claims to love me can put me through such a situation (abortion). I am so drained because I find myself crying and not eating these days. 
I have not told anyone so I am facing this alone. It pains me even more because my husband is the first and only man I've slept with and the first man I've ever loved. I feel like a rejected woman and not a good wife. 
Please someone help me, I need to hear some words of wisdom and advice.