November 28, 2016

My husband’s friend comes around too much, saw me n*ked

My husband of two years is very sociable and has many close friends that we meet up with. But he also has a clingy friend who comes to our home every Friday and stays until Sunday afternoon. I am often lying around in very little clothes or feeding our baby.

One morning he bumped into me n*ked in the bathroom. 
I feel as though my privacy is being invaded. My husband just expects me to chat to him but I am getting angry and we end up having huge fights. If I blame my husband, his friend jumps in and ticks me off... Even on our first anniversary supper this man turned up at the restaurant and joined us for coffee. My husband promises to talk to him but nothing has changed. 

He calls my husband every day. This man is nice and he loves our daughter, but I feel as if I am in competition with him for my husband’s attention. How can I stop him?

- A married lady in Lagos sent this to Aunty Julie. Her reply below:
Neither your husband nor his friend are being fair to you. To use Princess Diana’s much quoted phrase, there are three of us in this marriage. No wife would want another man there all weekend, leaving her little time to be with her husband. It is difficult enough to find time to just be a couple when there is a new baby, let alone when there is someone else there all the time. So talk to your husband once more and ask him to tell his friend that you want more time as a couple. It would be fine if came for supper sometimes, but not nearly so frequently. 
If your husband does nothing then you should talk to his friend yourself. Explain that you like him but you want more time as a couple. You could offer to find him a girlfriend to keep him occupied. 

19 comments:

Iliyasu sulaiman sani said...

you should complain to your husband

ope alliu said...

Madam talk to your husband,marriage is between the two of you not with his friend

Afoke Maleke said...

That reply says it All...

Hassan Aderemi said...

There is limit to certain things, it's only human want that is unlimited, matrimonial privacy fall into the category of those things that deserve limited intruders, you can politely tell your husband how uncomfortable you are with the frequent visit of his friend & tell the friend to minimise his visitation, if care is not taken something else (s3x) might happened by accident or intention between you & the friend which might be as a result of too much familiarity.

Chioma Ujo said...

Her husband and his friends are being insensitive. She should try d suggestions given to her and if it doesn't work, then something else is involved. #Justsaying

Harbolarkale Niyi said...

Women want all attention in whole world.

Anonymous said...

He is using this constant intruding into this inmature marry to run away from looking at the mirrow . or this woman my be blowing it out of proportion, mybe she just want to isolate his man inorder to manipulate him, cos the best away to manipulate people is to isolaate them from their friends, family member so that they do not have other opinion than the one isolating them from others

Austine Gabriel said...

are you sure ur husband is not a gay?

Anonymous said...

Her husband is BISEXUAL!...... that's it!

Rosemary Ezeji said...

Three is a crowd

Anslem Caesar said...

I love the advise. Is very nice. She should keep with it.

Anonymous said...

He can come but not everyday or sleeping over throughout the whole weekend too

Jeff Kingsley Jr said...

Eh why is dis woman talking like the husband frd got married to her, talk to ur husband

Ay360 said...

Mayb u should watch both of dem closely, are u sure dey are nt homo?

richoco4u said...

Sit him down and talk to him if he doesn't listern consult his family members meanwhile do not bring your private afairs out it could lead to serious break up. Settle among urself and family members alone.

oladejo festus rotimi said...

A CHANNEL OF YOUR PEACE
 
Make me a channel of your peace.
Where there is hatred let me bring your love.
Where there is injury, your pardon, Lord
And where there's doubt, true faith in you.
 
Make me a channel of your peace
Where there's despair in life, let me bring hope
Where there is darkness, only light
And where there's sadness, ever joy.
 
Oh, Master grant that I may never seek
So much to be consoled as to console
To be understood as to understand
To be loved as to love with all my soul.
 
Make me a channel of your peace
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned
In giving to all men that we receive
And in dying that we're born to eternal life.
 
Oh, Master grant that I may never seek
So much to be consoled as to console
To be understood as to understand
To be loved as to love with all my soul.
 
Make me a channel of your peace
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned
In giving to all men that we receive
And in dying that we're born to eternal life.
 
(Source: http://wordtoworship.com/song/10782)I RECEIVE THE PEACE OF GOD UPON MYSELF MY FAMILY MY HOME MY WORK AS THE YEAR RUNS TO THE END IN JESUS NAME

oladejo festus rotimi said...

You may not be able to change the deep thing of man, when you don't understand the mystery behind it, you may need not question it too much, many thing are of value to men up there than privacy of marriage; that is why many men are comfortable living not with their family

olisayemk said...

I guess your husband is a bisexual, so do you investigation well.

cheeks said...

omg, some pple really dnt knw hw to gv other pple privacy...too bad, some dunno when dey their welcome is over..